Our guests this week were Meena Chettiar, co-worker of Dwain Erickson and prospective corporate member with Dwain, Gretchen Blank, Ellen Blank, Carol Mulligan (guest of the Dr. Boss), and our speakers Dr. Boss, Jory C. and John K.
Eric Blank introduced his sister Ellen who had the privilege of introducing Dr. Pauline Boss, emeritus professor at the University of of Minnesota. Along with Dr. Boss Jory C. and John K, PhD students at the U of M spoke about "ambiguously lost." Dr. Boss provided a handout that briefly discussed ambiguous loss.
- What is Ambiguous Loss? 1) Frozen grief; 2) Leaving without goodbye; and 3) Goodbye without leaving.
- When is Ambiguous Loss a Problem? 1) Ambivalence (anxiety, conflict, guilt); 2) Immobilization in family functioning, decisions, tasks (depression, family conflict); 3) Passivity (low mastery, depression); and 4) Frozen Grief (depression, somatization).
- What Can we Do About It? 1) Finding meaning; 2) Adjusting mastery; 3) Reconstructing identity; 4) Normalizing ambivalence; 5) Revising attachment; and 6) Discovering new hope.
- Types of Ambiguous Loss:
Leaving without Goodbye; War (missing people); Natural disasters; Kidnapping; Hostage taking; Imprisonment; Desertion; Disappearance; Immigration; Migration; Divorce; Adoption; Travel; Relocation for work or military; Young people leaving home; An elderly mate being institutionalized; Alzheimer's disease and other dementias; Chronic mental illnesses; Brain injury; Addictions; Affairs; Depression; Preoccupation with work, computers, TV; Homesickness; and Transitioning.
Dr. Boss's Books:
- Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live With Unresolved Grief (Harvard University Press, 1999)
- Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic Work with Ambiguous Loss (W.W. Norton, 2006)
- Loving Someone Who Has Dementia: How to Find Hope While Coping with Stress and Grief (Jossey-Bass, 2011)
The link below is a StarTribune article on the subject and Dr. Ross. The Blank family has established a fellowship at the University of Minnesota.
Heart Safe Plymouth: We have trained 3,208 People and counting!
Members - please think about how you can be part of this great program.
Secretary - Club Administrator:
We are still in need of a Secretary for this Rotary year. Along with the need to fill this position, President Elect Pat Knight will be talking to members regarding board positions for the 2016-2017 Rotary Year. Please consider taking on a leadership position with the Club. The Club is only going to grow if everyone steps up.
Greater Minneapolis IGNITE 2016 Leadership & Innovation Conference:
The Six Rotary Clubs in Area 12 (Plymouth, Wayzata, Lake MTKA/Excelsior, Orono, Excelsior and Mound/West Tonka), under the guidance of Area Assistant Governor Jeff Wosje, are planning a leadership conference and subsequent series for 2016. The goal is to host a leadership and innovation conference with 300 attendees to serve our local business communities while raising awareness of Rotary. Currently most people within our communities primarily know about Rotary through our fundraisers, because that is what we promote - golf outings, ball drops, brewfests, etc. However what we do is so much more than that that. Rotary is about leadership to solve the issues affecting our communities and our world (i.e. Polio Plus). By hosting the conference we will position Rotary as more than just a service club, but a group of dedicated business leaders working to improve their leadership and innovation skills while serving the greater community. The hoped for result is that the exposure will also increase our membership. This will be aided by the fact we can be promoting our corporate membership at the same time as promoting our conference. After the initial conference, we would host a free monthly speaker series starting Friday, February 26, 2016. This series would feature just 1-2 speakers and be held at the Ridgedale Library. This would give our Rotary clubs continual exposure and offer great training.
The lead person from each club will be the President Elect. In our case that is Pat Knight. However, he cannot possibly do it by himself. Pat and I have agreed to coordinate the location and registration. Determining the location will be done by Pat and me. The registration - online, offline (sales within each club), day of event and coordinate of conference packets and name tags - will need a committee of Plymouth members. Pat will be reaching out to the members to establish the committee within the next week.
Rotary Grant Committee:
The Grant Committee is accepting grant applications which will be considered soon. Plymouth Rotarians must sponsor each application. First half grants will be awarded in January. Second half grants will be awarded in early Spring, 2016. Please review the Grant Policy and find the Grant Application Form at http://rotaryplymouth.org/Page/grants . Contact Past President Steve Beachler if you have questions.
Quarterly Invoices:
Thank you to everyone that has paid the recently distributed invoices.
New Members:
Remember the membership contest - 1 point for bringing a perspective member to a meeting, 5 points if that person joins and 3 points if you get a person to join without coming to a meeting. Steve Beachler has 12 points, Steve Juetten has 2 points and Glen Norton and Dwain Erickson each have 1 point.
General Information:
West Metro Rotaract Club: They have officially been chartered! The first president is Tim Janssen. The Club meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month, 7:00 pm, Coopers Pub, West End, St. Louis Park. The also have reserved the 4th Monday of each month for service opportunities. Tim can be reached at timothygjanssen@gmail.com. Please pass this information on to your colleagues, friends and others who may have interest.
ClubRunner Member Profiles: Preview your member profile on the ClubRunner website for accuracy and update any missing data. Contact President Steve Juetten with any questions you may have. To assist, Dwain Erickson and Diane Moyer can shoot smart phone photographs of members whose photos are missing in the Club Membership roster. Is your photo missing??
IOCP is Looking for Volunteers: IOCP has an upcoming need for Rotary volunteers. IOCP is need of Homework Help volunteers who work with kids once a week starting in October and going through the school year (more information coming soon). If you are interested, please contact Jill Kohler.
Amazon Purchases: Please remember to select RCOP Foundation when you make on-line purchases at Amazon.Smile. The Rotary Club of Plymouth Foundation is registered with Amazon and may be chosen when you make purchases through Amazon.Smile. Amazon will donate .05% of your total purchase to RCOP Foundation. The AmazonSmile web site provides all the same products as the regular site, but in addition allows you to designate a charity which Amazon will support. Please tell your friends and associates who shop through Amazon Smile! The contribution comes out of Amazon's pocket - not yours! Click here to get started:http://smile.amazon.com/ch/26-3054927 You Shop/ Amazon Gives!
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Riddles
1) What can be swallowed, but can also swallow you?
2) Sleeping during the day, I hide away. Watchful through the night, I open at dawn's light. But only for the briefest time, do I shine. And then I hide away. And sleep through the day.
3) They can be harbored, but few hold water. You can nurse them, but only by holding them against someone else. You can carry them, but not with your arms. You can bury them, but not in the earth.
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Rotary Core Values: Fellowship, Integrity, Diversity, Service, Leadership
The 4-Way Test: Of the things we think, say or do:
- Is it the TRUTH?
- Is it FAIR to all concerned?
- Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
- Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?
Rotary Theme: "Be a Gift to the World"
